It's Not All Kilig. What Really Makes a Relationship Last?

It's always a lovely sight seeing couples grow old together.

What are your secrets to a long lasting relationship with your loved one?

I feel a bit unqualified to answer this question because it's only been a year since my husband and I tied the knot. We were engaged for less than a year, sweethearts for a few years before that, friends (who actually really like each other) since college. 

Unlike a lot of couples we're not the type who count years. We measure the relationship not by its duration but by how much it has endured; and we have endured a lot. 

It's easy to fall in love. Nobody said it's going to be easy staying in love. So how do you make a relationship last?

Embrace your individual and mutual weirdness.

You know you've found your true match when you can be a hundred percent yourself around that person. Things that you think will repel other people won't even bother the two of you anymore (like snoring or loud farts). As time passes by your relationship, you'll discover a side of your partner he never shows anybody else. Consider that a privilege!

Fill your relationship with music, food, and a whole lot of laughter!

Your partner's taste in music, the food that he likes, and the kind of comedy he's into will tell you a lot about who he truly is. There's a backstory to a certain meal or song. Pay attention and you will spot them. Learn to make each other laugh. Through the years you'll have a collection of inside jokes to laugh about.

Go on adventures together!

Take a break from the mundane everyday life. Travel together. What if you're too busy? What if you don't have the budget? That's everybody's excuse. Save up and make time for that adventure and make it happen!

Respect each other.

Respect must not be based on how much a person earns, or what he has accomplished in his career. A relationship is a partnership. You are equals. You may not agree with certain things or issues but learn to listen to each other. Don't make a habit of criticizing your partner in public. Lift each other up.

Stay committed.

Commitment is the difference between infatuation and love. One of the hardest things to do is to keep a promise. There will be times when you'll wake up in the morning and wonder why you're still in a relationship. Commitment is the glue between two lovers when romance fails. It's impossible for a person who loves deeply to not be committed.

Put God in the center of your relationship.

This is extremely important. Our relationship with God affects our relationship with people. Pray for each other always. Go to church together. Serve God together. Encourage each other and strengthen each other's faith. In an ever-changing world, trust that God is constant and He will guide you through.

Don't ever let 'kilig' die!

I'm not just talking about going on an expensive dates. There are so many ways to make everyday feel special; like love notes, 'pasalubong', no occasion gifts, hugs for no apparent reason...

Hugs are sweet. Smelly hugs? Not so much.
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Embrace your individual and mutual weirdness.

Fill your relationship with music, food, and a whole lot of laughter!

Go on adventures together!

Respect each other.

Stay committed.

Put God in the center of your relationship.

Don't ever let 'kilig' die!

How about you? What are your secrets to a long lasting relationship? Let me know in the comments below! 😉

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